So goes your Self — so goes the rest of your life and relationships.
I’m Daniel Linder, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. For more than 40 years I’ve been working at the intersection of addiction recovery, intimate relationships, and the relationship with your Self. The relationship with your Self is the mother of all your other relationships. When it gets attention, everything else begins to shift.
This work is for you if you are:
Whether you’re in recovery, struggling in your closest relationships, or navigating dating, you’re in the right place.
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"All of the work I do is about empowering the transformation of relationships by strengthening the relationship with your Self. You can connect with others to the extent you are conscious and connected within yourself. You can't connect if you're not connected."— Daniel A. Linder, MFT
Daniel’s path began on the streets of Brooklyn and led to a one-of-a-kind workshop that combined dating and therapy, a new way of understanding addiction and recovery, and a series of books on the art of connection.
"After 20 years together our marriage had grown contentious; at odds more than we enjoyed being together; communication broke down. We had become more reactive and defensive with each other all the time, which is why we sought Daniel for couples therapy. He created a safe space for us to drop our defenses and open up to each other for the first time in a long time. I remember winking at my wife, glad we found him. Not only was it the first time we really talked to each other, it was like we were getting to know each other for the first time. It was mind-blowing and we're forever grateful to Daniel for that experience and for getting us back together."— Bob and Betty B., Berkeley, CA
RelationshipVision.com is intended to serve as your go-to online relationship training resource for keeping up with the latest developments in the areas of connection, intimacy, communication, conversation, addiction, recovery, and intervention.
After 40 years working with individuals, couples, and families, I’ve come to understand one truth above all others: the quality of every relationship in your life reflects the quality of your relationship with your Self. That’s where all the work begins. And it’s where everything changes.
I offer clinical services via Zoom statewide throughout California — and in person in Fallbrook, CA. All services are grounded in The Relationship Model of Addiction™ (TRMA™).
For those ready to do the deeper work — and come home to themselves.
Learn More“Relationships are as good as the conversations had.”
Learn MoreFor families ready to have the conversations they’ve been avoiding.
Learn MoreFor individuals in the grip of addiction — and the families who love them.
Learn More"Daniel's '51–49% Factor' completely changed how I understand relationships. I learned I had spent my life abandoning myself trying to take care of others. With this new awareness, I consider what is best and true for me before I respond to others, but not all the time. It's slow going, I make lots of mistakes but learn from them."— Lila K., Mill Valley, CA
"I have been thinking of you lately and wanted to thank you again for how much you helped my husband. I think I could honestly say that you saved his life. I always knew that my husband and I were very compatible and that we had so much in common, but we went through some very black times. My husband hasn't had a drink in ten years. We are flourishing in retirement.— L.D., Berkeley, CA
So please remember that the work you do in the world benefits people in a deep way.
With deepest thanks."
"Daniel has a rare ability to explain complex emotional and relationship dynamics in ways that are deeply understandable and transformative. He is insightful, direct, authentic, and genuinely embodies what he teaches."— Julie Hatch Parenting Podcast
