For those struggling in their pursuit of connection and coping with the pain of not getting their need for connection met, have the opportunity to pause a moment to check-in with yourself, to get a read on the level of your hunger or desire to connect as well as your openness and readiness to connect. When it comes down too it, all that matters is the quality of your connections and relationships and the extent to which you can rely on them for sustenance. Have you ever imagined all that is possible the first time you meet someone?
There are millions of singles who are dating, still seeking connection above all else, but who are approaching burn out from the amount of time wasted by the huge number of dates, serial dating, with nothing to show for their efforts and may have closed the door or that chapter. There are so many people out there looking to hit the jackpot, going through the motions date after date, becoming increasingly more disconnected.
They are aware of the reality that it’s quality, not quantity that matters. There are also clouds of ineptitude hanging over their heads. So many people who’ve never seen or been in a nourishing relationship, who don’t have any idea what that would be like and no one had ever taught them the arts of connection, communication and conversation.
Most dating advice is about finding the right person. This assessment is about something that matters more: whether you’re ready to meet them. Fifteen questions, about five minutes. Answer with what’s true, not what sounds best. There are no wrong answers, only an honest picture of where you are right now in your pursuit of connection.
Developed by Daniel A. Linder, MFT, from his Dating to Relate workshops and 80 post-date debriefings.
This is an educational self-reflection tool, not a clinical or diagnostic assessment.
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© 2026 Daniel A. Linder, MFT. How Ready Are You to Connect?™ is part of the 2Connect™ framework. All rights reserved. No part of this assessment may be reproduced, adapted, or distributed without written permission.
© 2026 Daniel A. Linder, MFT. How Ready Are You to Connect?™ is part of the 2Connect™ framework. All rights reserved. No part of this assessment may be reproduced, adapted, or distributed without written permission.