After 40 years as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, that is the truth I keep coming back to. The quality of every relationship in your life — with your partner, your family, your work, your recovery — reflects the quality of your relationship with your Self. That’s where we begin. And that’s where everything changes.
All of the work I do is about empowering the transformation of relationships by strengthening the relationship with your Self. You can’t connect if you’re not connected.
Who I Am
I’m a natural-born relater off the streets of Brooklyn — ready to connect with anyone, anytime, anywhere, about anything. I chose therapy at 25. It was a no-brainer. I’ve been studying relationships since I was five years old, already noticing the stark difference between people who were close and connected versus those who were disconnected and at odds. That early sensitivity became my compass.
What I Do
I am a Self and relationship-based therapist, trainer, and the creator of The Relationship Model of Addiction™ (TRMA™) — a framework that understands addiction not as a disease but as a relationship with a means of relieving pain from unmet emotional needs.
My core premise
The cause of most human suffering is relationships that fail to nourish. The cure is relationships that do.
I am a facilitator of the conversations that need to be had — creating an atmosphere of safety to be honest and real about the most charged feelings and issues, the “pink elephant” conversations, often for the first time. The trainer and artist in me focuses on the arts of connecting, communicating, and conversing — essential skills that can be learned, practiced, and honed until they become second nature.
Who I Work With
- People in recovery from any addiction — substances, pornography, gambling, love addiction, codependency
- Individuals in unhealthy or dependency-based relationships ready for change
- Couples seeking deeper connection, intimacy, and understanding
- Singles who want to stop leaving connection to chance
- Anyone whose relationships aren’t nourishing them — and who is ready to change that
It doesn’t matter what you’ve been through. The miracle of connection is always possible — with rigorous self-work, a hunger to connect, and some fire in your belly.
What Clients Say
“In one session, Daniel reached places we had struggled to access in years of therapy. Not only was it the first time we really talked to each other, but there was so much we had never said — we connected in a way we’d never done before. It was mind-blowing and we’re forever grateful.”Referred Client
“Daniel challenged me to grow, reflect, and heal in ways I did not think were possible. He brings profound care, insight, emotional authenticity, and decades of wisdom to his work.”Former Client
Work With Me
I offer individual, couples, and family therapy via Zoom statewide throughout California, and in person in Fallbrook, CA.