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Going Through a Breakup with Someone I Love.
I am currently going through a break up with a woman whom I love dearly. I know in my heart that she is it for me but due to the current situation and the obvious situation of having to move on now, I want to know if there is anything I can do to win her back. She is completely shut off from and I'm being forced to move out of our home. Yet again I love her dearly and just want some hope some way to regain what I've lost with her. I know it will never be the same and that?s fine. I would just like a chance for things to be better.
Response from Daniel?
"I know it will never be the same and that's fine."
Consider the possibility that your relationship could be better, better than it ever was. However it sounds like it has reached a crossroad, separation is imminent. Usually when there is an impasse like you've described, the relationship as it was is over. During some time apart, you both will hopefully have the opportunity to regroup and you to pursue a period of stablization and intensive self-work, which includes living alone and becoming more independent.
After some time developing more of a relationship with yourself, you may come to the realization that the relationship no longer works for you. You may also realize that she is the one you want to continue having in your life as a primary relationship, at which time, she may be feeling the same way (or not). If she feels that that is what she wants as well, it will behoove you both to seek couples counseling to clarify your future together, create a new beginning, and build a solid foundation by discussing goals, challenges and communication.
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About Daniel Linder, MFT
Relationships. I was born with a keen sense about relationships, was always assessing how close and intimate people are with each other. I had a knack for relationships. The importance of relationships cuts to the core of who I am. The combination of clinical training, 25 years of professional experience treating dysfunctional, non-intimate couples and families, as well as rigorous self analysis has given me a lot to work with. I put what seemed to come naturally to me under a microscope in an effort to break the process of building healthy relationships down to concrete essentials: Understanding of Basic Principles, Communication Skills, Self-realization and Intimacy.