"No Intimate Relationships During the First Year of Sobriety!"

Recovering addicts hear this all the time in 12-step programs. However, this sound bit of wisdom is rarely heeded. Many have a hard time accepting that a hiatus from intimate relationships is necessary. In their minds, dating and new relationships seem benign. As long as I'm not using and we're not using and are in a program, I'm safe. Not so fast. Getting into an intimate relationship prematurely....(Read full article...)

The Relationship Model of Addiction Humanizes Addiction

Humanizing Addiction by Daniel A. Linder, MFT This new paradigm – The Relationship Model of Addiction ™(TRMA™)– is intended primarily for clinicians to gain an understanding of addiction and recovery they can bring to their work - when providing education, conducting assessments and formulating treatment plans. It could also prove useful and valuable to those in recovery ....(Read full article...)

A Crash Course on Porn Addiction

Crash Course on Porn Addiction  by Daniel Linder, MFT,  Addiction Specialist The goal here is to gain an understanding and have an experience of porn addiction you can bring to your work - when you might need to educate, conduct assessments to determine whether or not one is addicted to porn (or other means of relief), and formulate treatment plans.   I - What is addiction? Before we get int....(Read full article...)

NEW!!! How to differentiate between healthy and unhealthy relationships?

By Daniel A. Linder, MFT According to Daniel, understanding the difference between the two increases the chances of being in the one of your preference, and if you are a clinician, it will enhance your ability to educate, assess and formulate treatment plans.  In healthy relationships, you’ll looking for:  An atmosphere of safety that enables both people to relate and respond to each othe....(Read full article...)

Not To Worry

By Daniel A. Linder, MFT Nothing, not even the dreaded commute, was going to keep me from getting to my class on time. That’s just how it is for me: If I say I’m going to be somewhere, I’m going to be there. It’s not so much the hundred miles I detest as it is the hour, sometimes two, of dead time, in bumper-to-bumper traffic.   I figured I’d leave my office promptl....(Read full article...)

An Anecdotal Story from a Recovering Co-Dependent

"You cut me off like you cut off mommy when she died." Only four days back from a drug relapse, my brother Billy's statement would have charged me up for a week. This time I understood how entwined I was with him.I didn't feel the electrical surge in my stomach when my guardians were doing their jobs perfectly. They had blocked the seduction to get into a long drawn out saga with him. I no longer ....(Read full article...)

Me, You, Us - Entering the Sacred Space of Co-creation

Intimacy is something we all want, yet it remains elusive, rare and mysterious. Some people have intimate relationships, but most don't. Lack of relationship fulfillment is the norm. Many of us want to know how to establish an intimate relationship-from single people who are wondering why they are still single to those in relationships who want a healthier, more nourishing connection with their pa....(Read full article...)

Finding True Love Through Intimacy

Finding True Love Through Intimacy By Daniel Linder MFT A lot of people have been asking about true love; is there such a thing; if so, what is it? Is it attainable; if so, how attainable is it? If it were just love, I wouldn't have so much difficulty. But, true love? Talking about true love is risky business. I can imagine taking a poll, going around asking people who are looking for true l....(Read full article...)


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About Daniel Linder, MFT

Daniel Linder Relationships. I was born with a keen sense about relationships, was always assessing how close and intimate people are with each other. I had a knack for relationships. The importance of relationships cuts to the core of who I am. The combination of clinical training, 30 years of professional experience treating addictive, non-intimate couples and families, as well as rigorous self analysis has given me a lot to work with. I put what seemed to come naturally to me under a microscope in an effort to break the process of building healthy relationships down to concrete essentials: Understanding of Basic Principles, Communication Skills, Self-realization and Intimacy.

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