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BREAKING UP MINDFULLY

Breaking up Mindfully  by Daniel A. Linder, MFT  Breaking up Mindfully is an outgrowth of The Relationship Model of Addiction (TRMA™). TRMA™ introduces a new paradigm for understanding addiction and recovery, one that shines a light on the emotional, psychological, and relationship aspects of addiction.    TRMA™ defines addiction as a relationship with a means of relief from t....(Read full article...)

THE BENEFITS OF DATING

The Benefits of Dating  Being single and dating carry highly charged negative connotations. For many singles, dating is a harsh reminder of being a failed single. What follows from here is a bleak outlook and dread of dating. There is the backlog of futility from endless fruitless first and only encounters, and those who have become resigned to seeing themselves as, ‘serial daters,&rsquo....(Read full article...)

10 TIPS - THE FIRST TIME YOU MEET SOMEONE

Tip #1 Ready to Date, Relate and Connect  Whenever you’re about to meet someone for the first time, ask yourself, are you ready for this? Being “ready” has to do with your ‘mindset.’ “Ready” means ‘ready to play,’ being focused, motivated, having a ‘game-plan’ to adhere to, and going all out the game is over – until the d....(Read full article...)

"No Intimate Relationships During the First Year of Sobriety!"

Recovering addicts hear this all the time in 12-step programs. However, this sound bit of wisdom is rarely heeded. Many have a hard time accepting that a hiatus from intimate relationships is necessary. In their minds, dating and new relationships seem benign. As long as I'm not using and we're not using and are in a program, I'm safe. Not so fast. Getting into an intimate relationship prematurely....(Read full article...)

Trump Adjustment Disorder (TAD)

Trump Adjustment Disorder (TAD) Something happened on a mass scale that had a cataclysmic impact – the election campaign and the outcome of the election that Trump is President of the United States,  sending ripples through time like a never-ending tsunami.   Trump is President. There can be no denying it anymore. There are those, more than half this country, so impacted – traumati....(Read full article...)

Trump: Unfit and Extremely Dangerous

Trump: Unfit and Extremely Dangerous  The news headline took my breath away. “Trump has forty percent chance of becoming President.” Yikes! Clinton is plummeting in the polls while Trump is gaining momentum. “How is this possible?” I wondered. “How could I have been so wrong?”    When I saw thousands, perhaps millions of fervent “Trumpeters” on TV,....(Read full article...)

My Nephew Shane

NOTE: I never imagined that the steady and destructive progression of drug and alcohol addiction would hit so close to home as it did when my nephew Shane committed suicide with a gun and had to be significantly impaired at the time, with multiple substances in his system as the toxicology report indicated. Somehow I was exempt up to this point. As an addiction expert studying and working with add....(Read full article...)

An Anecdotal Story from a Recovering Co-Dependent

"You cut me off like you cut off mommy when she died." Only four days back from a drug relapse, my brother Billy's statement would have charged me up for a week. This time I understood how entwined I was with him.I didn't feel the electrical surge in my stomach when my guardians were doing their jobs perfectly. They had blocked the seduction to get into a long drawn out saga with him. I no longer ....(Read full article...)

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About Daniel Linder, MFT

Daniel Linder Relationships. I was born with a keen sense about relationships, was always assessing how close and intimate people are with each other. I had a knack for relationships. The importance of relationships cuts to the core of who I am. The combination of clinical training, 30 years of professional experience treating addictive, non-intimate couples and families, as well as rigorous self analysis has given me a lot to work with. I put what seemed to come naturally to me under a microscope in an effort to break the process of building healthy relationships down to concrete essentials: Understanding of Basic Principles, Communication Skills, Self-realization and Intimacy.

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