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The First Time You Meet Someone

Looking back on what I believed and was trying to make happen, I’m leave questioning my apparent naïveté or idealism. Decades of working with individuals in recovery taught me that recovery is only just beginning after a sustained period of stabilization is achieved. I saw early-stage recovering clients venture out on their own, rearing to connect, but who invariably returned to therapy quit....(Read full article...)

“A Train Is Coming!” / From Lubitz to Trump

  “A Train Is Coming!” / From Lubitz to Trump by Daniel A. Linder MFT  At least I’m not alone.  As warning signals continue flashing in neon lights, more mental health professionals have been chiming in about Donald Trump’s unfitness to be president and trying to warn us of the danger he poses, everyday. We’ve heard him referred to as a “malignant narcissi....(Read full article...)

“A Train Is Coming!” / From Lubitz to Trump (abridged version)

“A Train Is Coming!” / From Lubitz to Trump by Daniel A. Linder MFT  At least I’m not alone.  Two hundred years ago, it was Paul Revere. Now it is the mental health community of this generation whose duty it is to sound the alarm in the face of threats to our safety and well-being.    The Goldwater Rule (GR 1964) considers any clinical information obtained outside of a tradit....(Read full article...)


Breaking up Mindfully  by Daniel A. Linder, MFT  Breaking up Mindfully is an outgrowth of The Relationship Model of Addiction (TRMA™). TRMA™ introduces a new paradigm for understanding addiction and recovery, one that shines a light on the emotional, psychological, and relationship aspects of addiction.    TRMA™ defines addiction as a relationship with a means of relief from t....(Read full article...)

Revisiting the Age-Old Case of Diagnostic Confusion: Sociopath Versus Psychopath

Revisiting the Age-Old Case of Diagnostic Confusion: Sociopath Versus Psychopath  by Daniel A. Linder, MFT  Many forensic psychologists and criminologists use the terms sociopathy and psychopathy interchangeably. Leading experts have disagreed on whether there are meaningful differences between them.1  In an article written in 1996, “Psychopathy and Antisocial Personality Disorder: A Ca....(Read full article...)


The Benefits of Dating  Being single and dating carry highly charged negative connotations. For many singles, dating is a harsh reminder of being a failed single. What follows from here is a bleak outlook and dread of dating. There is the backlog of futility from endless fruitless first and only encounters, and those who have become resigned to seeing themselves as, ‘serial daters,&rsquo....(Read full article...)


Tip #1 Ready to Date, Relate and Connect  Whenever you’re about to meet someone for the first time, ask yourself, are you ready for this? Being “ready” has to do with your ‘mindset.’ “Ready” means ‘ready to play,’ being focused, motivated, having a ‘game-plan’ to adhere to, and going all out the game is over – until the d....(Read full article...)

"No Intimate Relationships During the First Year of Sobriety!"

Recovering addicts hear this all the time in 12-step programs. However, this sound bit of wisdom is rarely heeded. Many have a hard time accepting that a hiatus from intimate relationships is necessary. In their minds, dating and new relationships seem benign. As long as I'm not using and we're not using and are in a program, I'm safe. Not so fast. Getting into an intimate relationship prematurely....(Read full article...)


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About Daniel Linder, MFT

Daniel Linder Relationships. I was born with a keen sense about relationships, was always assessing how close and intimate people are with each other. I had a knack for relationships. The importance of relationships cuts to the core of who I am. The combination of clinical training, 30 years of professional experience treating addictive, non-intimate couples and families, as well as rigorous self analysis has given me a lot to work with. I put what seemed to come naturally to me under a microscope in an effort to break the process of building healthy relationships down to concrete essentials: Understanding of Basic Principles, Communication Skills, Self-realization and Intimacy.

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